My name’s Cole Wayne and I have a gay POV on life. This blog/newsletter is my attempt to speak to, write about, explore, and question sex, love, relationships, and queerness in the gay community. Subscribe for the laughs, the lessons through mistakes I’ve made, and for an honest look at my (and maybe your?) gay life. You can follow me on Instagram at @colewaynec.
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I Don't Feel Pretty and Witty and Gay
There’s a familiar feeling I’ve felt in predominantly gay spaces. Namely, LA pool parties where Adonis men are strutting around in brightly colored speedos or warehouse parties where equally handsome men are strutting around in nothing but shorts, whisking each other away into the dark room. Have you felt it? It’s that sexual, hopeful …
What's your background?
Picture this: you’re swiping through attractive men on Grindr (for those who’ve never heard of it, it’s a gay dating app men use for “fun, friends, dates, whatever” with locals in their area) and get a jolt of joy when you hear the brrriipp of a message from a potential suitor.
You start chatting and sending pics, and without any context or lead-up, they ask you:
“What’s your background?”
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Still unconvinced? My ex told me “I’m Still Not Over Him” felt like reading a journal entry that should’ve been kept private. If that doesn’t entice you to pay $5 so you can read it too, I don’t know what will.
I’m Still Not Over Him
Or how I didn’t realize just how long it might take to fall out of love with someone.
What My Subscribers Are Saying
“Wow, I love this so much and know exactly how you feel and what you are talking about. It’s really hard to put to words sometimes but you described it perfectly. Thanks for that.”
“I’ve only read ‘I don’t feel pretty and witty and gay’ so far, but I found it to be quite relatable. It feels good to know there are like-minded people, specifically in the LA gay scene.”
“Thanks for writing that, Cole! it’s been one of the most jarring experiences for me. So glad you could express in words something that I couldn’t.”
“Just wanted to say thanks for articulating this so well, I read this in its entirety. A refreshing read to see someone else share such a fair and real POV.”
“Just read your most recent blog post whewww it hit hard 😭 appreciate you.”
